This post was written October 14th. The photo image is from my office, a gift from my brother nearly 20 years ago. 

As I build this business - deeply focused and devoted to empowering us to decide, declare, and pursue what we really want from this precious lifetime - it is easy to have fun in the lightness and joy of possibility and expansion. Truly, I’ve loved every second of it. 

Yet, as I write this, I have a to-do list that includes preparing a eulogy for my youngest brother, whose unexpected passing has left us in the throes of grief these past few weeks, coming on the back of months of some of the deepest inner work I’ve ever done. So it’s been on my mind, living with fresh sadness and grief, what it looks like to come back to this in a way that feels authentic to me and this mission while meeting me where I am. 

I decided the only way I want to do it now is the only way I want to do it ever, in the spirit of building community while being of...

A big hello!

Happy Monday, beautiful friends. 

In a recent post, I discussed how leveraging the algorithm can accelerate achieving your goals, as seeing content related to your ambitions helps your brain accept these desires as the norm. This strategy works, but it isn't always easy. We're human, and that means sometimes experiencing uncomfortable feelings like jealousy.

This is entirely normal. In fact, when I shared my Instagram hack with an old friend last year, she immediately rejected the idea. Her concern was that seeing others with what she wants would make her feel bad and jealous.

I understand completely. A few weeks after that conversation, I experienced it myself.  Years of following women I admire, whose programs fueled a quantum leap in my career and personal life, suddenly left me irritated by their reels showcasing new programs and exciting lifestyle updates.  Despite all my self-work, my first instinct was, "Maybe it's time to unfollow." But something...

 Last week I showed up at my gym for a 9:15 class and was confused – for a time that's usually packed, attendance was down by about two-thirds. Our trainer explained that people often avoid benchmark days when results are recorded for comparisons over time.

I get it. I've been going to this gym for nearly 9 years and at some point in the middle of that tenure this was me. Most of the time I avoided the class or if I was (accidentally) there I or would brush off the results and tell them not to bother writing it in my file. 

I behaved this way because I was intimidated by the data points. Instead of accepting my current fitness level, I was subconsciously holding myself to the standards of the collegiate athlete I used to be over a decade and a half prior. As a working professional striving for a full life, the expectation that I should still be training at an elite level was setting me up for constant disappointment.

To minimize the frustration and pain of not...

The words weren't planned. I had no notes, and it wasn't even a conscious thought when I was asked to share my story. But the moment I said it, everything changed. 

I spoke the words during the closing moments of an interview on the "Achieve with Me" podcast, hosted by Rachel Gilfrin. Our meeting was serendipitous – as I navigated a massive career change, I faced the daunting task of deciding my salary for a brand-new role in an industry known to be financially rewarding with generous compensation packages. Haunted by the knowledge that women often undersell themselves, I was determined to get this right.  Seeking guidance, I turned to a personal development community I had recently joined, and Rachel answered the call. (More on that career leap later – spoiler alert, it all worked out perfectly).

On the podcast, I shared my approach to work and life: actively deciding on my values and desired experiences. As I shared with her, about 6 years before the COVID-19...