What jealousy reveals about your desires
A big hello!
Happy Monday, beautiful friends.
In a recent post, I discussed how leveraging the algorithm can accelerate achieving your goals, as seeing content related to your ambitions helps your brain accept these desires as the norm. This strategy works, but it isn't always easy. We're human, and that means sometimes experiencing uncomfortable feelings like jealousy.
This is entirely normal. In fact, when I shared my Instagram hack with an old friend last year, she immediately rejected the idea. Her concern was that seeing others with what she wants would make her feel bad and jealous.
I understand completely. A few weeks after that conversation, I experienced it myself. Years of following women I admire, whose programs fueled a quantum leap in my career and personal life, suddenly left me irritated by their reels showcasing new programs and exciting lifestyle updates. Despite all my self-work, my first instinct was, "Maybe it's time to unfollow." But something deeper was happening, urging me to examine this discomfort.
When I finally faced it, the truth was simple: I wanted what they have – the ability to empower others through content that sparks those "pinch me" moments of realized desires. I had so much to share, and it was time to embark on a new path that would lead to creating the Wayshow Collective.
It would have been easy to accept the jealousy at face value. I was in the early stages of my second pregnancy, chasing a toddler, renovating our 90+ year old home, and working a fulfilling job at a company I love. I'm so glad, and relieved, that I didn't. Creating programs and coaching others, even in the early stages, lights me up and fuels me with inspiration and energy.
The more attuned I become to my mindset, the more I realize those hard feelings often reveal deeper truths about how I see myself and where I need to grow.
So, what is there to do when these emotions arise? There are a few steps you can take to move forward:
- Use this moment to get clarity on what it is that you, deep down, admire and want for yourself. Even if what you see isn’t a perfect match, what qualities or outcomes resonate with you?
- Dig deep to uncover what it is within your beliefs or experiences that makes you feel like this isn’t possible for you.
- Decide on new programming! If your old beliefs are limiting you, it’s time for new ones.
- Take action to upgrade your mindset to the new programming. Some helpful tools: Hiring a coach, talking it out in a therapy session, utilizing affirmations, and creating new goals that work for you (instead of you working for it!).
If you’re in a busy season of life and need help crafting goals that feel natural and seamless to do versus a hard road of forcing yourself uphill, I will be launching a new masterclass called “flow>hustle” in the late spring! Message me to join the waitlist, I'd love to have you there.
Ultimately, the clarity jealousy can bring you is invaluable. Embrace these feelings as signposts guiding you toward your goals.
If you used the jealousy you feel as a mirror, what would it show you about what you want out of life?
To your future self showing up now,
Rosanna
